how to be a good listener???

Hello everybody..

Just want to share for those who read my blog….its about how to be a good listener..

All of us have problems and we need someone to share our problems. Same like me…
So, I have read one article about how to be a good listener.. I was attracted to read it because I think if one day someone needs me to share their problems, so I can try to be a good listener as well..

About the article that I read…there are some tips to be a good listener..and I’m sure it is very useful to us..

Actually, listen is an essential part of communication and it’s different from hearing. More advantage that we can get if we can be a good listener. Its help to solve problems, to see the world through the eyes of others. We can learn a lot from listening.

Tips to be a good listener :

Place yourself in other person shoes
- it means that you must try to look at the issues from the other person’s perspective and actively trying to see his/her point view. It is not a good idea to consider yourself to be smarter than speaker.

Stop talking/be silent
- Many people think that silent is awkward and want to fill it with their own thought. Put aside your own needs, and wait for the other person to talk at their own part.

Follow and encourage the speaker with body language
- Nodding your head will indicate your hear what the speaker is saying and will encourage them to continue. Adopting body postures, position and movements that are similar to the speaker to relax and open up more.

Do not interrupt, be patient and respect pauses.
- do not jump to speak up after the speaker has come to his/her conclusion or resolution and there is a pause. You can always come back with your solutions or suggestion next time you talk.

Ask meaningful and empowering questions.
- do not seek to probe or make the other person defensive. Rather, aim to use questions as a means by which the speaker can begin to reach his/her own conclusion about the concerns or issues being raised.




In my opinion, this article is very useful so that we can improve ourselves to be a good partner to others. I can conclude that its not easy to be a good listener but we can try to be a good listener.

tQ..hehe!! enjoy it!!